As a Newborn and baby photographer, I have and like to spend a lot of time researching, learning and reading about parenthood, babies and pregnancy, and I would like to share this with you that I think could be very helpful.
Fatigue is very serious and it’s very hard to function if you are not at 100%, so I hope these tips below will be able to help you.
It can be a real struggle to get through the day on little sleep and while you’re constantly feeling tired. If you have other children, they add demands of their own. Once you return to work, the fatigue increases even more. With increasing medical issues and things like recovering from c-sections, mamas all have one thing in common – they all want more sleep. So what can you do?
1. Sleep when they sleep:
If your baby falls asleep after dinner, get yourself to bed too. It’s tempting catch up on all you didn’t get done during the day. By squeezing in an extra couple of hours before your usual bed-time, you will gain extra sleep, and will help you so much! I know this can be daunting;as you might think this might be the time to do some housework etc.
But just get cosy and lie down, even if you don't sleep just rest - if you have other children maybe take this time to lie down with them and have a cuddle or read them a story, this way you will “hit two birds with one stone” HA! Who would have thought??
Take this time to completely unplug. Your sleep is too valuable, don't give into this time sucking hobby that is social media.
2. Make use of people around you:
Have a look to your circle of family and friends for support. Maybe a friend who passes by your home might drop by with essential groceries. If people ask what they can buy for presents, think a bit more practical something like a voucher for cleaning services is more valuable gift than a baby brush or baby's first year book. Or get someone to come for cake and a cuddle with baby during the day so you can have a quick shower.
If the services are available, make use of online shopping, have your groceries delivered.
3. Find a postnatal doula, or someone that could give you emotional support and advise to help you through when you feel the blues.
4: Breastfeeding vs Formula…
You will have a lot of people, friends and family and some professionals might suggest you introduce formula to help you both get more sleep. While it might sound like a good idea at the time, you might be interested to know that breastfeeding mothers get around 40 minutes more sleep at night than formula feeding. Formula fed babies might seem to sleep more where as current research suggests that breastfed babies sleep greater.
5. If you are bottle-feeding
It might be tempting to hand your baby and the bottle to visitors, your partner or even prop the bottle to feed while you do other things. However, propping to feed can mean you both miss out on important time together, and letting others feed while you do something else that is “more important”.
6.“Bottle Nursing” might be something worth considering, it is a technique where babies who are formula or exclusively fed expressed breast milk still get a close association with you at feed times, hold baby close to your chest, with lots of eye and voice contact, the mother feeds the baby according to feeding cues, rather than a schedule. Skin-to-skin contact, switching sides during the feed and pacing the feed are all ways of simulating a breastfeed. Feed times can be peaceful break from other tasks, which both mother and baby will enjoy more.
7. Learn how to breastfeed lying down
“Learn how to breastfeed lying down in bed. When you are very tired, taking precautions to make sure you are feeding in a safe environment and being prepared for sleep is important. Firstly, make sure your bed is a safe sleeping space by removing potential hazards like excess pillows etc. Place your baby in the middle of your bed, on his back, and lie down on your side beside him. Have your head on a pillow but make sure it is not near your baby’s head. You might be more comfortable with a pillow between your knees or one against your back. With practice, you will get your set-up comfortable alone, but to begin with, your partner or other helper can tuck pillows into place for you. Your arm needs to be clear of the baby’s head – he will rest flat on the bed, not your arm. Position your baby so his nose is in line with your nipple and roll him onto his side. As you pull him close to your body, he will feel the nipple touch his face and gape for the breast as he does when you sit up to feed. As with anything new, it might feel awkward at first but with practice, you and your baby will soon get the hang of this new position…”
By saying the above, please also make sure you get fresh air, but baby in the stroller go for a walk, go to the park, go somewhere where you will feel calm, relaxed and happy. Look after yourself mama!
“By looking after the mother, we look after the baby. Making the most of the sleep you can get and adapting your life around the impacts of broken sleep can make all the difference. Being gentle with yourself and having realistic expectations of what you can achieve apart from infant and self-care can help you accept these temporary changes in your life”
And lastly remember to book your portrait session at your preferred Newborn and baby photographer, as these little ones change so fast, if you need any help with choosing your Newborn and baby photographer please read my blog on How to choose your photographer..
Thank you for reading...